A Filter for Uncertainty, Stress, and Anxiety

A couple years ago I was scheduled to be deposed. It was part of a case for which I was an Expert Witness. I was solid on my research and pending testimony, but the idea of being grilled by a lawyer put my stomach in knots.

Enter "The Four Agreements," Don Miguel Ruiz’ long-time New York Times best-selling book. This is my go-to for talking myself off the ledge when uncertainty, stress, and anxiety arise. Here’s why:

1. Be impeccable with your word
2. Make no assumptions
3. Take nothing personally
4. Always do your best

Running my situation through this filter helps me isolate the real issue or come to the realization I have nothing to worry about.

In the case of the deposition, here’s my thinking:

Am I being impeccable with my word? Yes.

Am I making an assumption? Yes, again. I’m assuming it’s going to be difficult.

Am I taking something personally? No.

Am I doing my best? Yes!

It’s that last one which got me to realize I had nothing to worry about. No matter what the lawyer throws at me, I can only do my best and so long as that is the case, I’ve done what I can.

First, read the book. It’s a game-changer. Second, use its wisdom to gauge the angst in your day. Third, focus on that fourth one. Doing so will make every aspect of your life better.

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